NICU Support Suggestions

Baby staying in the NICU, or neonatal intensive care unit, is rarely part of the plan. It's often a tough game-time discussion at the end of labor or birth, or in the early couple days of life.

So how do you prepare for something that you don't think will happen?

You don't, but you become exposed to the idea that it could be a possibility.

But when the NICU becomes part of your birth story, things can feel out of control.

You know you need help, but can be too overwhelming to ask.

So we made a list, not just for you to know what to ask for but it's even better...it's one you can share to all those who say "Let me know what I can do to help"

Instead of receiving well-intentioned things you don't need, or empty promises, here is something practical... for those near and far.

—> Ways you can offer/receive local support:

- Playing with or caring for older siblings/pets

- Don't wait to be asked for help, just do in a supportive way (laundry, dishes, cleaning, grocery shopping and meals all continue to be a need)

- Drive either or both of the parents to/from the hospital.

- Washing pump parts of breastfeeding

- Offer to help her obtain a breast pump for home if she hasn't gotten hers yet.

- Ensuring mom has a way to get to and from her follow-up OB/midwife appointment.

—> Support from afar (and nearby!)

- Give gift card types you may not expect (grocery store, gas, Uber, Visa) Hospital parking/meals can get expensive!

- Use the phrase "at least ..." very rarely if at all when offering support

- Check-in with them and offer love but don't expect a reply

- Don't ask when they're coming home unless they offer, because they probably aren't sure either

- Ask how mom is doing, not just the baby

- Offer to be the point person to communicate updates to friends or family so parents aren't starting over every time.